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If you are not familiar with common etiquette to book with a provider,
I highly recommend doing your own research before proceeding with your inquiry.
Need to refresh your memory on good etiquette? or maybe this is your first time inquiring?
Either way, I’d like to give you a friendly reminder that–hey! I’m a person too! So let’s be cool with each other, please.
SCREENING – This is non-negotiable. I require real information for my own safety just like my platforms required my real information to verify myself in order to approve my accounts and allow me to post my content. Click here to read my screening process.
If you try to go the “I’ll help you make content” route, please know I am still required to submit the same information I already ask for screening PLUS some, per each company’s requirements.
This might the first time you’ve ever met someone “like me” and may have a few questions–and that’s okay! That’s why I’ve put together a handful of frequently asked questions to make it a little easier for you.
FTM = Female to Male.
This means the gender I was assigned at birth was female–baby of the female sex; therefore, baby’s gender is female, right? More commonly, yes! but not always the case.
Remember this: Sex is what is (mostly) between your legs. Gender is what is between your ears.
Yes! There are just as many trans men as trans women out there. You’ve probably met several trans people throughout your life and not even known, and met some you suspected may have been trans but actually weren’t!
This is why stereotypes are detrimental to our community. We’re just regular people. We have hobbies, pay taxes, work any job like everyone else, and sometimes even stub our toes by accident!
I came to terms with my identity as a teenager, but did/could not officially begin transitioning until my last year of high school. I started hormones when I was 20 (college), legally changed my name at 21, had top surgery (mastectomy) at 22, and legally changed my “gender marker” when I was…uh…well, Covid started and it made everything take twice as long and time became irrelevant for a bit, but it was around that time.
There is a very common misconception that we just “have a sex change” overnight or something …like you come back to work one morning like “tadah! guess what I did!”
In reality, this is a loooong and slow process that can and will take years.
Transitioning technically never ends, but this is also depending on the person. If they are happy with themselves as they are at that point and don’t feel the need to undergo any more physical changes, then that’s on them to decide the “completion” of their transition.
What about it? Have I had it? No.
BUT Will I have it?
Also no.
Again, this is my own personal preference and decision. Every trans person feels different about their own bodies.
For me specifically: yes! absolutely! You are welcome to ask pretty much anything about my life as a trans person without having to walk on egg shells.
How are you supposed to learn if you can’t ask, right? Just remember to remain respectful and receptive. If you use an incorrect term or have incorrect information regarding the trans community, I won’t be mad but I can correct you.
No. Always ask for consent first. Not every trans person is comfortable or willing to talk about their transition. Picture somebody you know, but not that well, like a coworker or something. Now imagine them suddenly asking you about your genitals… weird, right?