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If you are not familiar with common etiquette to book with a provider,
I highly recommend doing your own research before proceeding with your inquiry.
Need to refresh your memory on good etiquette? or maybe this is your first time inquiring?
Either way, I’d like to give you a friendly reminder that–hey! I’m a person too! So let’s be cool with each other, please.
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This might the first time you’ve ever met someone “like me” and may have a few questions–and that’s okay! That’s why I’ve put together a handful of frequently asked questions to make it a little easier for you.
FTM = Female to Male.
This means the gender I was assigned at birth was female–baby of the female sex; therefore, baby’s gender is female, right? More commonly, yes! but not always the case.
Remember this: Sex is what is (mostly) between your legs. Gender is what is between your ears.
I came to terms with my identity as a teenager, but did/could not officially begin transitioning until my last year of high school. I started hormones when I was 20 (college), legally changed my name at 21, had top surgery (mastectomy) at 22, and legally changed my “gender marker” when I was…uh…well, Covid started and it made everything take twice as long and time became irrelevant for a bit, but it was around that time.
There is a very common misconception that trans people simply “have a sex change” which sounds like something that would happen overnight or something.
In reality, this is a loooong and slow process (physically, emotionally, and financially) that can and will take years.
Transitioning technically never ends, but this is also depending on the person. If they are happy with themselves as they are at that point and don’t feel the need to undergo any more physical changes, then they are the ones to decide the “completion” of their transition.
Have I had it? No.
BUT Will I have it?
Also no.
This is my own personal preference and decision. Every trans person feels different about their own bodies just like every cis person feels different about their own.
For me specifically: yes! absolutely! You are welcome to ask pretty much anything about my life as a trans person without having to walk on egg shells.
How are you supposed to learn if you can’t ask, right? Just remember to remain respectful and receptive. If you use an incorrect term or have incorrect information regarding the trans community, I won’t be mad but I can correct you as needed.
No.
Always ask for consent first. Not every trans person is comfortable or willing to talk about their transition.
Picture somebody you know, but not that well, like a coworker or something. Now imagine them suddenly asking you about your genitals… weird, right?